Dear B&V

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Betty got this comment on her blog Thursday, and I just had to respond:

Dear Betty and Veronica,

I have had two best friends my whole life and now suddenly they are each others best friends leaving me all alone. I'm so left out. What should I do?

Hannie

Thanks for the great question! Both Betty and I have struggled with this very problem over the years. Just remember that you can have more than one best friend; in fact, I think it is healthy to have several best friends.

Of course, Bets and I have been best friends forever; we grew up together. But you know, we don’t always get along. Sometimes I like to talk to Nancy about stuff, or Midge, or Reggie. Sometimes I even talk to Ethel when Betty is preoccupied with other things.

Everybody has a different perspective on things, and I like that. I say, don’t be threatened because your friends are hanging out together. Meet some more people, make some more new friends. The world is full of terrific people and the only way to meet them is to get out there and do it.

You never know when you’re going to meet your next “best friend!”

Betty and Veronica

31 Comments

People will always be like that, don't worry, everything passes with time

I had this problem before, but I realized why not have 2 best friends. Whenever your best friends are playing with each other, that doesn't mean they don't wanna be your friend. If their playing with each other, just make your own fun. Like, playing with other people, etc.

Patricia

I have pretty much the same problem. I have two best friends, but now they are each other's best friends and tell each other secrets and won't tell me them. They get annoyed when I try to talk to them and they hand out together evey weekend. I have other friends but none of them are in my class and they all pretty much have their own best friend. Except for one who just moved away. I'm stuck in the same problem.
It's really unfair, so I know how you feel person who posted that problem.

hey thats good advice...=D
hey bets, ronnie i have a question..
what grade r u in?
r u like a freshmen,
naw i dont think ur in grade 9 lol =P
so ronnie and betty i think u have a great sence of fashion..
lo i mostly crazy about shoes wat about u guys..
i hope u anser soon bye ;D
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hi everybody else
lol
wat grades arer u guys in
lol
and wats ur fav assiories
(i think i spelled that wrong, oops mehbad lol)
well later u guys
ezzzzzzzzzzzzzz =D

great advice ronnie. i deffinately know what you're going through Hannie. And my advice to you would to not get caught up in the "i want the most liked" game. That's what i did when my friends started breaking off into separate groups, and it didn't help me win any best freinds back. So ronnie's advice is awesome. Try to remaine close friends with your two best friends, and also try to meet new people. I find it doesn't help to feel jelous. You can never have too many friends!
good luck!
georgia

What Bets and Ron say is right - at my school we have this song:

"Make new friends,
But keep the old.
One is silver
and the other's gold"

Thanks for the advice

Dear B&V,

i have a problem too.

my friend keeps pressuring me to start to date because she is dating. i triend to take to her adn i told her i'm not ready and she just laughed and brought eovr this guy in my class. what do i do?? HELP!

-Emili

My best friend did something really bad and I'm not aloud to talk to her anymore. Since I just secently moved a few weeks AND I'm homeschool, I don't know anyone, so I'm really sad about it. The only people I have to hang out with now are between 6-4 years younger than me, too...

Hannie,
I really understand wwhat you feel... You know, It ever happened to me. It must be hurt to be left all alone. If you think they ignore you, just ask them why! There must be some reasons. But if they don't want to tell you why, or their reason isn't reasonable, you can find other friends that you can share with. Hey, being alone isn't that bad! I'm sure you'll find your true friend!!

Goood advice! I agreee! i have a question though ron,
I'm not very good at meeting new people, i always feel akward and stuff so i tend to stick to my group of friends which isn't good, so how do i just go out there and meet people?

i say, if your friends start ignoring you, then they arn't true friends, and you should deffinately meet new people and find new friends.

Hannie, that happened to me once this year. I had three best friends, until one day, I felt totally left out. I even had a terrible meltdown at the lunch table, and they didn't even look up! And I was right beside them! Well, I just hung around with my other friends for a couple of weeks, and finally, I had straightened things out with my other friends. Sometimes, time apart does make the heart grow fonder. :) -Kelsey

*I even talk to Ethel*

Veronica, you make it sound like talking 2 Ethel is a bad thing. Is it because she's not pretty or popular? Because it sounds here like it's something weird. Just wondering.- Amal*F

Ron, My best friend Janelle moved to North Carolina!Now who's gonna be my new bff?I hang out with my 2nd bff Daisy.She's pretty cool and nice.We have a lot in common.Should I hang out with her more?Should she be my new bff?I also feel sorry for Daisy,too.All the boys are scared of her.They say "Dude, you got Daisy-Germs!" It's a horrible sight.I don't get it.She's like...the most normal one in the whole class.It all started when a guy named Cre'shawn.He had a crush on Daisy in kindergarden.But,she wouldn't dance with him.He took it hard.I guess it's for revenge or something.Should I avoid Daisy or should she be my new bff?

~Dalton~

I have a big problem. I like this guy that I've known for 8 years. We're really close and our families know each other well. However, I just found out this year that he likes another girl he just met a few months ago! Also, I found out this other guy I don't know very well likes me. I've only known him since September, though. Now, we're actually going out! I like him enough, but he's just not the same as the guy I really like and have known forever. I didn't want to ask this guy out, though, because it would probably ruin the great friendship we already have. What should I do?!

Dear Betty and Veronica,
I live in a town were the greatest thing to do is shop in a grocery store. Normaly in the summer i'ld go to camps but with the price of gas to get out of town is to expencive. I need your help on seggestion for what to do!
Your biggest fan,
Kali

Hi Ron,

I am 15 years old and I've been reading Archie comics since I was 8 and I have 5 book shelves full of them and I need some advice you see there's this guy who is an exact opposite of me. I do well in school (A's and B's),and don't ever get in trouble but for some reason I really, really like him and I know he really, really, really likes me and when we're alone he is the sweetest nicest person but if one of his friends or anyone else is around he is a massive jerk and he makes really bad jokes and throws small things at me. I HATE THAT. what do I do it's making me crazy? Please post this I desperately need help!!!!!!

Dear Betty and Veronica,

I have this problem. It was last year, when I'm still grade 3, my best friends and my other best friends including me are keep on fighting. We are so angry at each other that we didn't talk to each other. To enable to talk to each other, we write on pad papers and we call our classmate and let them give our reply. Is taht a good idea? Because I'm now going to grade 4 and I'm sure that we will fight again, please give your answer, is our style is a good idea?

your ultimate fan
Leann

Dear B&V: I have an issue with camp. I'm going to a music camp already, but my mom asked me to go to a different camp as well, where i could do drama. i can go to both, but i dont know if i want to go to the other camp, because i dont know as many people. i am very sociable, but its in a small town and im concerned that they will think I'm too dramatic.

LMK,

Kris H (alias)

hey,how can i get a babysitting job in my neighborhood?

Dear betty and Veronica,
In the beginning of the year, everything was going great. We were all getting along, and making new friends, but then they all kind of started to ignore me. they were always trying to find reasons for me to leave them, they started saying things like "we need to talk in private" ans things like that. What should I do to deal with that?
~hoplessly coping

SOMEONE HELP ME WITH MY PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear Veronica,
I used to like this boy Cameron(no seriously and honestly I don"t like him anymore after this)but there was this dance and I asked him and he said NO!So now since I really don't like him (he sits next to me)he keeps holding that over me and plus he is really funny so now I can't joke around with him any more plus there is this other guy Owen,who totally gossips all the time so when ever Cameron talkes about it ...it feels like an OWEN ATTAK.So what should I do?
Absoulutly embarassed,

Annie

Hi Veronica,
I have a huge problem that me and Liz(my all time best friend)know its going to get harder to get rid of the more we keep it up.There is this other girl Bliss,and she is so mean to me but extremely nice to Liz.We don't Know what to do and we haven"t for 5 years.Thats right 5 years of keeping up an act that we actuallylike her T he only reason she is nice to Liz is because she is rich what should we do?

Annie

DEAR RONNIE GIRLFRAN YOU COOL BUT YOU SHOULD TOTALLY GO OUT WIT REGGIE HE IS SO CUTE ARCHIE IS NOT YO TYPE

I Once Had The Same Problem With My Friends.Sometimes I Was Not Even Allowed To Talk To Them.It Really Hurt Me.But Now We Are All Best Friends And I Found Some New Ones Too.So Now We Are All Best Friends!

Dear b&v,
I have a friend since grade 2 and she nice to play with.
But she lies to me and she makes me sad and angry.
And sometimes i'll play with somewon else and I look over my shoulder to see her crying.
When I ask her whats wrong,
she always think I don't like her anymore.
And she fights with my friends because she thinks they're stealing me.
She's fun to play with but should she be my friend?
help me!,
Confused friendship

Dear Betty and Veronica,
I have this friend and she's nice to play with and all but, when I play with another one of my friends she goes over to them and says"stop stealing my friend!". It gets me mad and my parents tell me to not be friends with her but that's hard for me, I just can't be friends with somewon.
help me please!!!!!
by,
confused friendship holder

ARCHIE can't marry veronica ........HE JUST CAN'T!!!!!!!!

Dear Betty and Veronica,
My boyfriend that I had been going out for a year, just broke up with me.
I see him flirting with an other girl these days and It makes me feel sad.
What should I do? and will I ever get over him?

p.s And just my coincidence the boy is a red head, I have black hair and that girl is blond!

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