Bets and I thought that today would be a perfect day to answer another one of your questions. This one comes from neko c:
Dear B&V
Can you please give me some advice on this one? I'm having a really stressful time this valentines day. I'm in an all girls band and I think we're pretty good. But we keep getting into fights every session. And since one of our band members has decided to use the band for a project, all we get to do during band time is do her project. We know how important this is to her, and we constantly tell her that, but we need to have some time to ourselves as a band as well. Every session there're constant breakdowns and yelling between two members and it's really frustrating. I always try to tell them this, but they never listen to me. I can only talk unninterrupted when they aren't speakin to eachother. Then, they will listen to me, agree, then get angry again. What should I do?
Thank you!!
luv,
neko c
Bets and I do know something about this one. Band dynamics are tough. Everyone has their own idea of what they want to accomplish. So, we think it would be best if you sat down with everyone – NOT at rehearsal – and talk about your goals as a group. You all should agree on them and then stick to them when you meet to rehearse. If you’re all on the same page going in, that’ll quickly put a stop to someone who wants to shift the focus.
Okay bbs – let us know what YOU think!
Love Ya!
Betty & Veronica