Thanks for all the poison ivy remedies. I’ve tried them all and, you know, they’ve really helped! I even slept all night last night; didn’t wake up itching once. ?
I’m not the only one who’s having problems though. Several of our bbs are having trouble with their “friends” and would like advice. I put the word friends in “” because I have a really hard time believing TRUE friends treat each other badly.
Oh, I know, you can occasionally get mad at your best friend and not speak for a while – Ronnie and I have done that on occasion. BUT real friends get over it. Quickly. Here is what BettyRules wrote. I think it sums up the problem pretty well:
Dear Betty,
HELP!!!Lately(past two months)my friends have been leaving me out, making mean comments behind my back, making plans without me, telling the guy who I like that I like him and many MANY other things that would take too long to write!!I really only have one good friend and she's not even in my class!Almost everyone in my grade thinks I'm this big nerd and they are all taking the Mean Girls side!Please Betty, what do I do?????
Desperately seeking advice,
BettyRules
Several of our bbs are in this same situation. You already know what I have to say about it.
What do you think? Does a REAL friend treat you this way?
What do you do if you find yourself in this situation?
Can’t wait to read what YOU have to say.
BBs to the Rescue!
Xoxoxoxo
Betty
Sigh... I wish my "best friend" were able to be friends again. She started skipping classes at school and sneeking off the school ground, and normally I guess that I wouldn't have been to surprised about that but she started doing really bad things that I don't think I should say here... I feel so bad.
A real friend definetly does NOT treat you that way. Now that school is over though, things might get easier. But, if your ever stuck like that,find something to occupy yourself. Focus extra harder on your studies, write stories, or bury your nose in a book. Try something you can do in class that helps you escape from the mean taunts or jeers. -Kelsey
Hi Betty. Could you give me some advice? Recently my mum has been acting strange, like she's suspicious of me or something... what do I do? I'm not doing anything wrong that I know of.
Another advice: talk to your friends nicely! Ask why there being mean to you and ask them how they felt if they did the same thing to them!
A real friend does not act like that. But I've been treated like that myself for several years now. What I do is just ignore them and make other friends. It does not matter if they're in your class or whatever. Just make other friends and ignore the others. I'm a sophomore in college now and have real friends just because I ignored the fake ones. It will get better.
stop being frends with them.its teh only way out.
Well, I know these people aren't my friends but there are a couple of girls who are mean to me--I think it's because I'm kind of sensitive. They don't even know each other (one's on my bus and one's in my class) but they still both dislike me. They both recently did teh same thing to me--hand out invitations to their birthday parties and talk about them in front of me when of course I'm not invited. It really gets to me. I wouldn't want to be invited, but I still feel left out. I know they do it purposely to annoy me, and I try to pretend I don't care, but it's hard.
One of my real friends said to me and i quote:Ignore them and life will be happy for you. I'm having my own problems to but i don't let them get the better of me. Tips:
1. Avoid
2.Ignore
3.Try to talk to them
and
4. If all else fails... talk to an adult
hey BettyRules,
Its Kaileigh. I am going through the same problem almost. I would just ignore everything and soon it will get better. Ever since I made the cheerleading squad, some girls that have been mean to me are treating me nicer. Just do something incredible and it will eventually get better.
Hope it helps,
K
Hey Bets! I had th same probs w/ my so called Friends. I finally got fed up w/ 'em, so I came up 2 them while they were spreading lies about me. I asked them "What do you have against me that you need to lie behind my back and embarrass me?" And u no wut? They couldnt answer th Q! Now ppl respect me and my "friends" stopped lieing. I still dont hav probs w/ them!
im getting desperate
im pretty sure i'm on the verge of self-destruction if i dont have to write another story starter entry
First of all, if they were your real friends they wouldn't treat you this way. I think that what you should do is dump them. I'm sure you're a smart girl and you need to learn that you don't need anyone in this world but yourself. You don't need to listen to anything anyone has to say, you just need to trust yourself. For example, I myself, have been called a nerd millions of times, but since I didn't listen to what they had to say and ignored them, today I graduated from High School with high marks and in the Honor Roll. I felt so proud because this was my achievement and everyone who used to make fun of me were barely able to graduate. I'm sure in time you'll find someone who's nice and deserves to be your friend.
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You know what would really make your friends regret being mean to u? If you showed them that you didn't need them and made lots of new friends (and laughed alot and had fun) they would wonder why they were being mean 2 their friend. Also, try staying away from them 4awhile because then they'll probably forget why they were mean and be ur friend again.- Amal*F
Dear Betty,
Lately I'm very tired, no matter what. My eyes are droopy, my nose is runny. What should I do?
Brace Face
dear betty,
i had a best friend for 4 years now but were not friends anymore because i told her she was acting childish about something i have tried every way to win her back what do i do?
signed, desperate
Bye PHEMY!! you proably dont really know me but iw ill miss seeing ur posts!! Hope you have fun!!
to betty;
i know this boy in my class and i have a crush on him and um since i like him he thinks i am ugly what should i do betty i love him but he dosn"t love me back!!!!!!!!!!!?????????
Those are NOT real friends! If you know where they live,you can talk to their parents about it,or your parents. You can also talk to a teacher or principal or any other authorative figure about it.
Thanks guys for the great advice!!!
True friends are people are REALLY care about you and are actually willing to listen to your problems and oppinions about things
Friends are great, but I guess with all great things come the bad. When we're down we're supposed to turn to our friends, but when it's our friends who put us down... where do we go?
BETTY I THINK THAT YOU AND ARCHIE SHOULD GET TOGETHER BECAUSE YOU ARE CUTE TOGETHER.
hey! leah here
the exact same thing happend to me in grade 8.
i'm in grade 10 now, and none of those girls are my freinds anymore. it took almost a year, but now i have awesome friends, and they would never do anything like that to me.
you should talk to them, face to face, be bold, and tell them that real friends don't do stuff like that to one another. If they still don't change, then they're the ones with the problem, not you. I'm sure everyone in your grade doesn't hate you. So meet some new people and try to make new friends. it's hard, but it's worth it.
You'll get through this, i did (and trust me, grade 8 was HORRIBLE for me.)
good luck! keep smiling!
leah
(p.s. the girls who were mean to me, they don't have many friends anymore, everyone realised that they were shallow. i think they're a little annoyed at me because i proved that i don't need them.)
What is this? dear abby?
Okay, girl. I have been in the same EXACT situation that u r in! IF those girls Dare to come crawling up to you, DUMP THEM! They don't deserve a girl as sweet as you and whatever they are doing is plain stupid. What you should do is go the Guidance office or even go parental. And since you have one true friend, meet her after school or anyplace wherever. Talk to her in the Hallway! This may feel a bit weird at first, but try to become friends with GUYS. You might find a lot in common with them. You don't need all those other girls. They are plain rude and crude. I hope this advice helps you so much.
Dear BettyRules,
U might want to just give them the silent treatment. When they say mean stuff behind ur back, then just totally ignore it and act like u are perfectly happy. U could alwayz diss them with comments like "R u a diaper?
And then if they say no, then reply "then why r u so pissed?"
Or " God r u a pack of bulls?" If they say no, then u say" then why r u acting so horny?" Something like that.
:>)
dear betty i need help i like this boy and i do not know if he likes me what sould i do
Hi Betty! I just wanna say, I LOVE you! Such a big fan!! Anyway, I need some advice. My two best friends in the entire world, Samantha and Kelly suddenly turned on me, they won't talk to me, they will whisper mean things about me behind my back and without even talking they push me onto the ground, and I try e-mailing them and calling them, they won't write back or if I'm waiting for an answer on the phone, they will hang up. We did not get in a fight or anything, they just suddenly switched, I have no clue what to do, and I'd rather talk to you than anyone else, so please, help!
-Amber