Boy, I wanted to hug Blackcat when I read this comment:
Dear B&V,
My mother and older sister and i got in a fight today because of my sisters treasures being stolen. I thought about running away but i only got as far as my junior high school. When i finally got back, my sister was moving out. Betty and veronica... i feel so bad for making my sister leave. What should i do?
Blackcat.
Blackcat – first of all, I hope things are much better now. Usually time does help :) Congrats to all the bbs for giving Blackcat such good advice! (((((BBHugs))))))
Blackcat brings up a very good point: How do you handle conflict? I thought a lot about this one. I get lots of practice with Ronnie. Sometimes we work through things really well; sometimes, I forget my own rules and then it takes forever to work things out!
These are the 3 things I try to remember:
TALK. Don’t yell. Yelling and the melodrama that goes with it only belong on Jerry Springer.
LISTEN to what the other person is saying. People don’t listen when they get mad, they just yell their own stuff at each other. Don’t do that.
Be HONEST. If you aren’t honest, you really won’t work anything out, and you’ll just end up mad again – and confused because you thought you had it worked out!
I hope this helps. Like I said, I’ve had a lot of practice at this. I sure don’t have Solving Conflicts mastered, but when I remember to do these 3 things, the conflict passes really fast!
Xoxoxoxo
Bets
Comments (13)
Sorry about me not giving you advice about your problm Blackcat:(.So this is all I got.
Blackcat,it isn't really your fault that your sister decsided to move out.Plus I don't think it's anyones fault at all.What I think what you should do,is talk to your sister and ask her if she really wants to go.And ask her where she would go.She might reconsider.Plus this might just be a phase.It happens to a lot of teenagers.They think they know everthing and think their not treated right so they think running away would solve their problms.Isn't it annoying?I have to deal with it too.It's really scary.You should also tell her that you miss her and love her and that might make her come home.
Hope I was at some help!
(((Tighthugs)))
Posted by Dalton | March 30, 2008 10:35 AM
Posted on March 30, 2008 10:35
Blackcat, if you didn't steal the treasures, then it's not your fault that your sister is moving out. She and your mother are falsely accusing you of something that you didn't do. And the way that you can prove to them that you didn't steal her treasures is to, (like Bets said) be honest to both your mother and your sister. Talk it out with them. Try not to lose your temper even if you don't agree with them. Nicely, tell them, (that means not yelling at them) that you don't agree with them and explain your feelings with them. I hope this helps, and I hope your sister is back at your house.
Posted by Marissa | March 30, 2008 7:48 PM
Posted on March 30, 2008 19:48
Betty&bb's.
First of all thank-you for sending me great advice. I feel better. For a moment when i was going to run away i wanted to come to riverdale and see what it would be like to live in ur world betty. But i had no idea how to get there. Second, my sister returned on the 28th but i wasn't there. I told her i was sorry. I didn't take her things though and yet... i'm banned from my band tour to kamloops and kelowna.
Posted by Blackcat | March 30, 2008 7:55 PM
Posted on March 30, 2008 19:55
oh and p.s: my sisters TREASURES still haven't been returned. and they were a crystal lily, a japanese fan and a glass sea turtle. Those are pretty valuble things just to go missing. everyone i n my family has denied taking them even me. I'm going to have to investigate further. maybe we have a ghost in my house.
Posted by Blackcat | March 30, 2008 8:03 PM
Posted on March 30, 2008 20:03
You're right Betty. Yelling at someone only makes things worse. If you are ticked off, it's best to go to your room and cool off and think it over. That way you don't hurt anyone and regret it later. And if you listen to what the other says, you can think it over carefully when you are alone to think it through and see the picture better than at that moment of anger or problem.
Thanks Betty for the great advice and I hope you are feeling better Blackcat. **hugs**
**hugs Betty back** :D
Posted by Hilda | March 30, 2008 10:31 PM
Posted on March 30, 2008 22:31
I AGREE WITH BETTY.
Posted by PHEMY | March 31, 2008 12:36 AM
Posted on March 31, 2008 00:36
Blackcat,
It might be tough but you can't stop your sister from doing what she wants to do. You can try to get her to not leave but if she does or not its her choice. Just remember, it's not like you'll never see her again. She might not like being alone from her family and come back. So until then, feel better. You aren't the only one hurting, your mum is probaby regreting everything she said also.
xox Smiley xox
P.S. Dear Betty and veronica,
To Post your own problems, do I just e-mail dearb&v@archiecomics.com ?
Posted by Smiley | March 31, 2008 10:05 AM
Posted on March 31, 2008 10:05
Hi Betty,
WOW!!! I'M BLOGGING WITH MY HERO! Sorry, heroINE. Betty, I love you! AND I KNOW ARCHIE LOVES YOU TOO NO MATTER WHAT!!!
XOXO from Ontario,
Tina
Posted by Tina | March 31, 2008 11:02 AM
Posted on March 31, 2008 11:02
Hi Betty,
I think you should write a story about dogs (I love dogs!). It could be about you finding a lost puppy with no collar but later it turns out to be a superstars dog or maybe its an alien!
Thanks
From Shantel! :)
Posted by Shantel | March 31, 2008 1:11 PM
Posted on March 31, 2008 13:11
You should really try to work things out between you and your mom/sister. Just say calmly that you're are really sorry this happened (And mean it too! Be honest!) and that you love your mom and sister. Try hard to understand your mom and your sister, and in the end, it will work out. Your sister didn't move out because of you, I'm sure, but she might have been mad at the time and didn't know what to do. Plus, she might have been confused and didn't want to fight about it. your sister probably wanted to get away from it all the mess. hope I helped, and hope everything works out! :)
~Kitty
Posted by Kitty | March 31, 2008 2:43 PM
Posted on March 31, 2008 14:43
i'm sorry to hear that black cat!
Posted by Michelle | March 31, 2008 11:12 PM
Posted on March 31, 2008 23:12
Wow, i'm really sorry to hear that blackcat. I hope things got better. My advice is first to follow Bettys advice! She is so right! And also just remember, when your mad at someone the main thing to do is to stay calm and remember that we all have our own faults and the person your mad at isn't the only person with faults. Also think about how the other person feels (in this case your sister) and her point of view. I hope this helps!
Posted by Julia VP | April 1, 2008 7:49 PM
Posted on April 1, 2008 19:49
i love betty from archie comic book and i totally think archie and betty make such a cute cuple to bad arch likes voronica well to bad from shanique aka the girl how likescookies.
Posted by shanique | April 14, 2008 8:49 PM
Posted on April 14, 2008 20:49